A time for everything.

A time for everything. Found a great poem in the Bible applicable to step/blended families. Sharing just some of it. A time to plant and a time to uproot. A time to tear down and a time to build. A time to embrace and a time to refrain. A time to search and a time to give up. A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be silent and a time to speak. A time for love and a time for hate. A time for war and a time for peace. Ecclesiastes 3.

Fairy Dust Do-Over for StepMoms

Fairy Dust Do-Over for StepMoms

Tinker Bell was on to something when she threw around some of her fairy dust.  I wish we had some of our own just for step moms; a little stepmom magic if you will.  No more awkward moments, dirty looks, or under-handed jabs.  Drop a little dust when no ones looking and bye bye stress bird.

Going to a parent teacher conference?  No problem.  A little sprinkle here a little sprinkle there, and enjoy the rest of the evening-- You, hubby, and the step kids.

A graduation you say?  I have a fix for that.  A dab here a dab there and so long flies in the ointment.

Meeting half way?  No sweat.  A touch of this a touch of that and later to the hater. 

A birthday you say?  No biggie.  A pinch over here a pinch over there, and blow away.

Yes siree, a little fairy dust could go a long way.  Stepmom magic is available and it is free.  Want to get your hands on some?  Who wouldn’t-- You, me, the whole family.  Let’s get together and make us some.  It has to be legal, safe, and free.  Easy access to anybody.  Drop me a line if you know how and together we can help stepfamilies.

Man charged with slaying his sister-in-law

Not only does he stab his sister-in-law, but he also kills his nieces.  What could have driven this young man to be so violent?  Why was the 6 month baby not harmed--was this baby his?  What do you think about in-law violence/abuse?  Is it as bad as it seems or does it reach only a very small population?

http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-10-28/news/34782884_1_murder-case-mother-of-murder-victim-young-children

My interview on the Brummet's Conscious Blog

Many folks want to be heard, but they are not sure how.  I touch on a few questions asked by unpublished writers.  I hope I have answered their questions.  Take a look:

http://consciousdiscussions.blogspot.ca/2012/10/world-of-writing-interviews.html

Drop by the Brummet's Conscious Blog on Oct 15

Once there, you can read where the host interviews me from a writer’s point of view concerning
advice /knowledge of self-publishing:


If you've ever thought about getting your story out, this interview is just what the Doctor ordered-- good food for your ears.

http://www.consciousdiscussions.blogspot.com

Meet Ms. Ery at the Leonia Library Oct 11th

1. No one knows drama like Miss Ery.  She may be beautiful on the outside, but her name says it all.  

   
   

   Two Latinas Writing Books will be at the Leonia Library October 11th at 7p.m.,discussing when misery meets comedy. Meet Miss Ery.  Come on out during Hispanic Heritage Month to hear how these two very different Latinas met. Plus, if you are interested in getting your story out in a book, they can tell you how.

   
   

   
   

Mediator causes 1300 deaths? Keep reading--I had to take a 2nd look myself.

I had to take a 2nd look. I wondered, what did this medator do?

http://www.theheart.org/article/1355185.do

Father-in-law kills daughter-in-law

Terrible news-   Deadly in-law drama

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/09/25/new-york-man-73-wanted-in-death-daughter-in-law-as-cops-search-woods/

Do you know someone involved in the in-law blues?

Is your mother-in-law your mother; or is your mother- your mother?

I remember doing a radio interview and being caught off guard when asked, "Doesn't the Bible say to Honor your Mother and Father?" Basically, the caller was judging me because in my book, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not speaking till this day. First off, she's not my mother, which is what I should have responded, and secondly, I just found the answer to his question. As I read the...

Word this morning I found in Mark 3: 31-35:

"Then Jesus 'mother and brothers arrived. Standing outside, they sent someone in to call him. A crowd was sitting around him, and they told him, "Your mother and brothers are outside looking for you." "Who are my mother and my brothers?" he asked. Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, "Here are my mother and my brothers! Whoever does God's will is my brother and sister and mother." Ha! Ask me that question again, I will have an answer for you.   Who do you say is your mother?

In-law problems still an issue even after one is dead!

In-law drama still a problem even after one is dead! This ex-daughter-in-law is still stirring up problems for her mother-in-law (no pun intended).  See full story below on link.

http://ht.ly/duwFs

When In-law Violence hits a celebrity's life.

This is such a sad, sad, story.  Jennifer Hudson's family killed by her brother-in-law.  Domestic violence is growing in the in-law arena.  Read below for the full story.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/may/11/jennifer-hudson-william-balfour-murder-guilty?fb=optOut

StepMonster- The book have you heard about it?

I belong to several stepfamily groups on facebook and I just happened to come across this article on Psychology today. One of the groups had posted it.  I thought the author of stepmonster did a good job on explaining some of the family dynamics. If you notice, it includes adults hating the stepmom. I'm pretty darn sure it is the mother-in-law, leading that parade folks.  What say you?  See below for the article.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/200910/the-real-reason-kids-and-adults-hate-stepmom-part-2

Couple Who Fought for Gay Marriage Files for Divorce

hhhhmmmm, I wonder if the mother-in-law was the culprit behind the divorce?  What do you think?  See below for full story:

http://www.totaldivorce.com/news/articles/society/first-gay-couple-married-file-for-divorce.aspx

Stepfamily or Blended family or Bonus family- who cares? They do!

 Taken from stepbystepmediation.com:

Research has shown that calling a Step Family a “Blended Family” can actually set that family up for failure. During the first 5 years of Stepfamily formation they are trying to figure out the Boundaries/ Rules/ Family position and Roles. They are hardly “Blended”. When they and society put an unrealistic expectation on themselves by using this terminology they are adding stress onto an already stressful situation because they may feel like they are failing at Blending their family.
Society needs to accept and call Stepfamilies for who they are – a gathering of people from two separate families who have come together to create a new and unique family system. Just as Adoptive Families and Foster Families are celebrated for their uniqueness, Stepfamilies should be as well.
Be proud of your Stepfamily and rejoice in your connection and know that in time you will “Blend” but at the beginning it may feel more like you are in a Blender.

What say you?

Wife looking for advice

I found this article in circle of moms. This wife shared her marital business w/her mother and now her mother and husband hate each other. This is a common dynamic in marriages today.  Read her story below:

http://www.circleofmoms.com/stay-at-home-moms/stuck-between-husband-and-mother-feels-like-a-war-705815#_

The bottom line-  What happens between husband and wife stays between husband and wife.

Tenafly Yard Sale July 21st

Tenafly Yard Sale July 21st

Hammers are for nails not heads

Someone should tell these in-laws hammers are for nails not heads!  Read what happened in China.  I'm telling you that this in-law epidemic is global.
http://www.globaltimes.cn/content/721118.shtml

Mother-in-law caught breast feeding grandson

How disgusting.  What is wrong with this woman?  Read on:

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/07/dear_prudie_i_caught_my_mother_in_law_breast_feeding_my_son_what_do_i_do_.html

Celebrities have in-law drama too

Angelina Jolie better get a copy of my book quick and check out rule # 1.   Seems mother-in-law to be and Angelina had a tit for tat...read for yourself:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2172189/Angelina-Jolie-mortified-Brad-Pitts-mother-writes-anti-Obama-anti-gay-marriage-letter.html?ito=feeds-newsxml

Unresolved conflict can prove fatal

Unless issues with the in-laws are resolved, escalation can prove to be fatal.  Even conflict with our spouses can prove fatal.  Take this sad but true story between a spouse, a mother-in-law, and a stepdaughter:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/20/narcy-novack-convicted-murder-ben-novack_n_1612718.html

Upcoming Radio Show

I'm looking forward to the Tough Talk on Friday.  We will be talking mediation when it comes to step/blended families.  Be sure to tune in.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/toughtalkradionetwork/2012/07/06/tough-talk-w-tony-g-w-rebecca-pringle-jim-palmert

Plant the seeds for a super stepfamily

If you are in the New York area, stop by Deja Vu Book Lounge.  My last post showed an address of 112 E. 116th, however, google maps was outdated.  (tsk tsk)  The correct address is 1783 Lexington Avenue, New York, NY. 

Come say hello.  Have you got a question you'd like for me to answer?

Book Signing by Dynamic Duo

Come out to see us and afterwards on to Loving Day Celebration.   June 9th  1-3PM

"She's not my mother-in-law: She's my husband's mother" and "Black and white make brown" are two books you do not want to miss out on.  Authors Rebecca Miller Pringle and Cornelia Brown are two women who are spreading the word on diversity, justice, and empowerment.

Deja Vu Book Lounge
112 E. 116th Street
Harlem, NY


Website: Book Signing

Phone:             (646) 261-3840      

Age Suitability: Teens and up

Meet and greet free to the public- Signed copies available for $10

http://apps.facebook.com/discover_zvents/?id=259033404&from=uex

Mortgage Crisis affects couples facing divorce

If your in-law wedged a gap between you and your partner and now find yourself facing divorce, there is something you should know.  Check out the article below:

http://gomestic.com/personal-finance/mortgage-crisis-affects-divorcing-couples/

Just a step parent?

I found a new facebook page called "Just a step parent?"  There SM's and SD's can voice their frustrations concerns, questions, etc.   Check it out.

Radio Interview with Author Rebecca Miller Pringle

Dear Friends & Family,

      I was invited to be a featured spot light guest on the hit INTERNET TV SHOW- SPIRITUALLY RAW “The Ass Whipping Truth”

This global awareness will significantly increase my publicity & exposure! Check it out, kindly leave a comment & please pass it on!

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3) Scroll down the episodes to: “RESOLVE IN-LAW DRAMA!”

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Where spirits meet skeptics and consciousness connects!

We explore and expose controversial truths, myths, theories, and religious dogma surrounding the spirit world. Special guests range from Psychic Mediums to Catholic priests and everyone in between. Be prepared for a cataclysmic collision of energies!

NO topic is TABOO!

Apron Strings- Who should cut them off?

We all know at least one person who can be categorized as a "mama's boy."  I have a very good friend who loves being one and he is 52 years old.  But what exactly are apron strings and who should cut them off?  Should it be the adult son, his wife, his mother, anyone?    Or do they need cutting at all?  What are your thoughts?

The Price is Right or is It? | Gomestic

The Price is Right or is It? | Gomestic

The price is right or is it?

The Price is Right- Or is it?

Peace at any cost some say, but how much will it cost?

           

This morning as I was reading my Bible and preparing for my radio interview on Spiritually Raw (www.Spirituallyraw.com), to discuss my book, “She’s not my mother-in-law: She’s my husband’s mother”,  I came across—“Things get worse before they get better but God will keep us afloat through the whole business.” My mind is blank right now regarding where I saw it exactly, but that isn’t important. What is important is that I read it and I could relate.  I must be headed right towards my jackpot I said to myself because I have hit one tornado after another.  I have been hit in my finances, my body, my patience, with my children, my spouse, my ex-spouse, and my extended family-- need I say more?  However, I have not drowned. I have stayed afloat, but it cost.

 

            Behind door #1 we have corruption.  Door# 2 has resources and door # 3 bonding. I have been through each door.  Some voluntarily and others pushed in.  What is behind each of these doors?  If you are interested in door # 1 go to http://www.lawlessamerica.com/ Inside you will read about Atlanta’s most corrupt judges, government, and law enforcement in the United States.  We have been there and done that.  My husband and I faced the Juvenile Court Giant and survived.  We have our custody war scars to prove it.

            Door# 2 has the USABFA- United States of America Blended Family Association which I am a member of.  Here families with yours, mine, and ours are welcome.  The USABFA works to connect blended families with one another and with the resources they need to build a healthier community by bringing blended families together and strengthening the bond they have with one-another and their communities.

www.usabfa.org  As a new member I am excited about the possibilities of sharing with others who are paying a similar price and also staying afloat. 

            Lastly, behind door # 3 is The Bonded Family Movement—seeing your stepfamily grow from broken to blended to bonded (www.thebondedfamily.com).  How beautiful is that.  I just learned of this movement today preparing for the show.  And as luck would have it, all my preparation and material I reviewed wasn’t even in the show.  I guess God has other plans as He usually does.  The Bonded family exists to serve blended families by helping them find encouragement, hope, and motivation as they learn proven practical step-family tips and techniques, inspired by 14 years of experience, research, study, and a faith-based foundation. Their vision is to strengthen and support marriage and children, and enhance the quality of everyday family life. 

            There you have it.  Door # 1 tries to sink you.  Door # 2 keeps you afloat ,and door # 3 helps you soar.  I’m not sure how much it will cost, but I bet the price will be right.  If you are interested in more information on step/blended families please visit http://www.millermediators.com/ or you want a Piece of Me on Facebook.  To find out more about my book, please visit http://www.outskirtspress.com/rebeccamillerpringle  I look forward to seeing and meeting local step and blended families on September 16^th for Stepfamily Day at UCC in Cresskill!

A twist in in-law news...a mother-in-law gets the role reversed on her

Normally, it is a mother-in-law that we hear in the news taking advantage of her daughter-in-law, however, in this story, the roles have been changed.  Read  below

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEGJjjQYbjA

Tough Talk with Tony G.

Tune in March 24th and listen to some tough talk:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/toughtalkradionetwork/2012/02/24/tough-talk-w-guest-michelle-risley-and-rebecca-pringle

Son-in-law injures father-in-law

Women are not the only ones dealing with in-law issues and/or drama.  Check it out:

http://abclocal.go.com/kgo/story?section=news/local/east_bay&id=8508002

Stepfamily Day- September 16, 2012 Sunday

Will you be celebrating Stepfamily day in September?  Shoot me your ideas on how we can celebrate.  Shall we have a walkathon, a picnic, or  a parade?  I'd love to hear from you. 

Future StepMother-in-law E-mail goes global

Ouch!  This woman isn't even a biological mother-in-law to be.  She is a stepmother-in-law to be.  What do you think:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/8607132/Mother-in-laws-email-about-future-brides-uncouth-behaviour-goes-viral.html

Tune in this morning at 9:15am to www.w4cy.com

At 9:15 am this morning, I will be talking about the in-law blues and why we should avoid them.  http://www.w4cy.com/

Feel free to call in with questions.

The U.S. is not the only country with in-law problems.

Tortured Afghan child bride had been sent back to in-laws

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/world/tortured-afghan-child-bride-had-been-sent-back-to-inlaws-20120103-1pitj.html#ixzz1iLcrgEUl

Disgusting!