Wednesday, July 2, 2014

I found this article in Bubble News..it seems it should've stayed in the bubble...what say you????

Translated and made ​​my mother set traps miscarriage

Submitted by lethithu on July 01st, 2014 –
Category: Art   http://www.bubblews.com/news/4169392-translated-and-made-my-mother-set-traps-miscarriage
I know and love each other husband, mother in law always tries disturbances, basic kind of girl she hates "being a virgin" like me. Frankly, she was jealous of me because her husband loved and still virgin at 24 years old. But when her father took my husband had 2 deep love. Because she is a city girl so early loss of virginity story is also often. But her life was not smooth because her husband was tormented life. Now look at the scene daughter loves pampering her husband, her father-mouth praise always "good strawberry" very angry but she does not do anything.

In life, nobody wants to make his marriage unfinished patchwork. However, where it is still not at the woman, or because of the weather or because of the "power of love" to run after the men had families. Behind this complex relationship that people complacent, there are many who suffer and fall into families separated ...

Wedding night her son had sought a quarrel with reclaim daughter when she was awarded with jewelry reason "mother take them." But I knew, my mother addicted to gambling should not be pulled away. Before the wedding day, I hear anisotropy (my mother) rumors that she had just lost the gamble 100 million. So she quickly stole all the gold for my paternal hand to repay.

Initially only a few tens of million but debts owed ​​hundreds of millions until my husband announced new assistant fire. Seeing me she suspected her husband I told my father Australian. Her mouth muttering, "then you die with her​​, she'll have you out of the house as quickly as possible".

I do not know where she repay the loan, but after that I did not see her husband again gamble. One day, she brought a girl home I reach age 18, you introduce the human body to learn at home. She spoiled her more then his son, daughter-in-law and praised "the gentle pretty girl, who like the language you ..." I said I knew her, but I remained silent for the past. I do not want to quarrel with her ​​more, because it would not be arguing anything.

Then one day came home from work early, I hear she cooed, "I gradually learned to cook on, cooks and doctors will try to give you two closer together. Soon her son-in-law was in the house. "I was startled thought she only had my husband's son Was she considering her for me? As of the date of this strange and I see her doing well are doing, always trying to glide through my husband's face, then she is arrogant to face me again.

That evening, my wife informed me was two weeks pregnant, my husband announced he was very excited about plans to "personally I will name her". My mother heard reserved pooh "He's right put the cart before the horse, who does not know that she was even more thunderous." Hear about attitude unhappy mother, I would allow the front room, and my husband found wife stood lagged well run, causing upset mother.

But then something heartbreaking happened when my mother by getting lamps in the bathroom did not specify how that made ​​me fall down the chair. Looking crimson line skirt appalled me, my mother screamed so loud that. That day, the air in my house suddenly sank. My husband's father did not say anything, he quietly went to his room. I know he is very sad really, almost 60 years old that have not coddle her baby. Accordingly, I also constantly sick 2 months.

Is mother's day and I blame clumsy girl have each child in care without knowing the abdomen, said holding. Then the moisture that I do not eat well should be "fine weather" My husband makes scratching their heads. He would not listen to his mother, but also many times that I should be more careful. Half a year later I got pregnant the second time, this time I was keeping, dare not climb, no self motorcyclists.

Translated and made ​​my mother set traps miscarriage - 1

What the mother and mistress of my husband brought from poignant (Artwork)

Perhaps I feel insecure especially her husband. My wife and I capital harmony in sexual activity, but in abstinence time, I do not hold it back for her husband to have fun outside. Which remote do not say where the girl in my mother's house leading to always seeks his attention, at times, she also strongly implying the night, any questions about how to do all the word, how to install computer passwords, ... and my husband is innocent as not helping. Hunch wife shows her brother are also attractive. And she's off the table to "love my husband like that, because he has a handsome Hanoi ...".

Voting for the 5th month I made ​​sleeping difficult, increasing the frequency to urinate more. But then one fateful night, I had that dream shattered husband and father, while not keeping the old guy in his belly. I do not understand why the eel bowl of water in front of the bathroom HIB and I fell, I lost consciousness. When I woke up ... it was too late. My husband looked at her with tired eyes lifeless.

From that day, with my husband than cold, little brother asking, not early encouragement that comes later. I have many times you say love hugs "Then I'll have the baby, I promise this time not like that", but he brushed me off and shook his head, "I do not any more vain". He reiterated the right questions or talk about my mother, "a woman's right clumsy as me."

Mom tried husband increasingly overwhelmed me, other than the previously announced time ignoring my husband, sometimes I feel so lonely emptiness. That night, the first night my husband was not home, the next morning when I woke up to see him come out of her room, her face looked very contented. When my husband asked the applicant has married the mother, due to her husband drunk yesterday so wrong room. When I asked what's going to happen, he said, say what they do anyway. But looking smirk on her face, I knew that was something.

Then I was you I reported her husband was dating a student, I heard described guess she's right. I cried so many do not know whether or not jealous? I also know some of the blame because of his carelessness. Every time the mother saw the applicant has with strangers than my daughter is very heartbreaking. I dare not speak to her husband announced he was angry because I know. The only way is to talk to the husband, as I said, he refused to say that I fly in denial skeptical. Not only that, he also said that I should loudly wellness care for yourself first, you do not have control over that, he just more tired.

But then, there are nights when I wake up not see where her husband, the heart was burning, I guess her husband was in the next room. In the dim electric light, I see her husband in bed with another woman, it seems they are very happy, so happy it's not the first time.

The next day, I called her into the kitchen to talk, but I did not expect her cunning to the point that her mother went to lie down on the tantrums, weeping and begging me to forgive. I stood there in confusion, I did not understand what was going on anymore. At that moment, my husband and father to husband about fitness. Seeing this, he beat me. He said that, if I touched her, to hurt her unborn baby would have to pay the price.

As there are thousands of needles stabbing into the heart, I collapsed, but instead I got up, I support her. Dad husband said nothing about the room was silent. Only my husband and mother, she had harsh words to say I still remember clearly.

Maybe also do not recall when I know the truth that she never abandoned by her mother and benefactor, who for my mother to borrow 100 million debt payment, that my first miscarriage also the general health of the mother, the pot of water that does not make him suddenly that the bathroom door that night.

How many nights I cried at the thought of what was happening in my life, I did not expect the marriage so bitter? Thinking back what the mother and mistress of my husband brought from torment. Now I know what to do to overcome this pain here?

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Monday, October 21, 2013

The invisible grandchild

What would you do if your spouse's mother deliberately refused to ask how her sick grandchild was doing?

When my husband's mother called him after three years of no communication to see how he was doing, she did not ask how our daughter was doing, despite the baby having a life threatening illness.  This small omission should be  a Huge wake up call to him, but it confirms what I have been saying for years.

Not only was I invisible to them during our courtship and then marriage, but now my child is also invisible.  But I just put a positive spin to it all.  God keeps from us anything and anyone who will cause us harm.  By protecting us from evil thoughts, wishes, and desires that others may have for us, leaves us open for peace, joy, and success to enter.  Here is a perfect example of what I mean......

Talk about freaky-- I've had this little card with a boat on the front that reads, "Thinking of you" and inside the card it says Hope--"Of all the forces that make for a better world, none is so powerful as hope.  With hope, one can think, one can work, one can dream. If you have hope, you have everything."  A couple of days ago, I turned the card over to see where it came from, would you believe it's from Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center.  I've had this card for years.  BEFORE Giza was diagnosed with cancer.  It's as if God knew and was preparing me, and letting me know, He would be with me.  I just can't believe it.

Turn your situation around by believing in good.  Trust that good will come and success will be yours.  I can't promise how long, but I will be in agreement with you that God will send it your way.









Sunday, July 28, 2013

Advice: My boyfriend’s mother introduces me as her daughter-in-law

I saw this story on-line and thought it made a good point.  What do you think? At first we see that this is the boyfriend's job to pull mom aside and say something, but then we read that the girlfriend should tell his mother something.  Which one do you think is the better choice?

tellme@washpost.com
Dear Carolyn:
My boyfriend's mother has started introducing me to her friends as her "daughter-in-law." There's a long history of her discomfort with the fact that her son and I aren't married (yet/ever?), and I'm not sure how to address this new wrinkle. Should I just leave it alone, since it's relatively harmless and probably makes her feel better in her social circle, or correct the inaccurate label?
-- Maryland
What has your boyfriend thought or done about it? This is his move before it's yours. I hope he greets it with a pull-aside and a discreet, "Mom, please cut the (crud). Thank you."
  • If she's doing it when he's not around to hear it, then I suggest speaking up to her afterward, in private. "I appreciate how welcoming you are, but calling me your daughter-in-law leaves me with two awkward choices: to correct you or to deceive others. I hope you'll understand that I'd rather not do either one."Obviously I disagree that her using this terms is "relatively harmless." What she's doing is manipulative and wrong -- forcing her views, really, under a veil of propriety, family and apple pie.
  • Re: Non-daughter-in-law:


Is it manipulative to use a formal term for an informal relationship? I used to refer to my (now, really, truly) stepmother as such when she and my dad were cohabiting. It was mostly for simplicity's sake but also to introduce her in relation to me, and there was no other good term for it. Dad could call her any number of things, but all I had was "Dad's live-in girlfriend," which felt impersonal, or "stepmom."
-- Anonymous
Remember, we're talking about a situation where "there's a long history of her discomfort" -- hence my reading it as manipulative.
To answer your general question: Whenever you're not sure, ask. "I don't like to call you X because it feels Y. OK if I call you Z?
It can also be helpful to err on the side of omission. Of the three pieces of information -- "Dad's," "live-in," "girlfriend" -- how many did your listener really need?

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Mother's Day

Wow, what a beautiful mother's day this year turned out to be. The weather was nice, the company, and food.  How was yours?  I read on one of the stepmother's posts that stepmother's day is the wknd after Mother's Day.  I have mixed feelings about that one.  Do you?  This year was extra special for me because my little girl is just about old enough to scribble a little something on my card at only 16 months old.  How sweet to see a little card that says from your daughter.  I've raised two handsome strong young men and starting over with a little girl.  How has this year been different for you?  Did you spend time with your mother-in-law?  I'd like to hear from you.  I know it's been a while since I've blogged, but we were hit with a tidal wave last year with the baby's cancer and I don't have to tell you that my priorities have taken a different turn.  Drop me a line and share your story with us. 

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

A time for everything.

A time for everything. Found a great poem in the Bible applicable to step/blended families. Sharing just some of it. A time to plant and a time to uproot. A time to tear down and a time to build. A time to embrace and a time to refrain. A time to search and a time to give up. A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be silent and a time to speak. A time for love and a time for hate. A time for war and a time for peace. Ecclesiastes 3.

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Fairy Dust Do-Over for StepMoms

Fairy Dust Do-Over for StepMoms

Tinker Bell was on to something when she threw around some of her fairy dust.  I wish we had some of our own just for step moms; a little stepmom magic if you will.  No more awkward moments, dirty looks, or under-handed jabs.  Drop a little dust when no ones looking and bye bye stress bird.

Going to a parent teacher conference?  No problem.  A little sprinkle here a little sprinkle there, and enjoy the rest of the evening-- You, hubby, and the step kids.

A graduation you say?  I have a fix for that.  A dab here a dab there and so long flies in the ointment.

Meeting half way?  No sweat.  A touch of this a touch of that and later to the hater. 

A birthday you say?  No biggie.  A pinch over here a pinch over there, and blow away.


Yes siree, a little fairy dust could go a long way.  Stepmom magic is available and it is free.  Want to get your hands on some?  Who wouldn’t-- You, me, the whole family.  Let’s get together and make us some.  It has to be legal, safe, and free.  Easy access to anybody.  Drop me a line if you know how and together we can help stepfamilies.

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Man charged with slaying his sister-in-law

Not only does he stab his sister-in-law, but he also kills his nieces.  What could have driven this young man to be so violent?  Why was the 6 month baby not harmed--was this baby his?  What do you think about in-law violence/abuse?  Is it as bad as it seems or does it reach only a very small population?

http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-10-28/news/34782884_1_murder-case-mother-of-murder-victim-young-children

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

My interview on the Brummet's Conscious Blog

Many folks want to be heard, but they are not sure how.  I touch on a few questions asked by unpublished writers.  I hope I have answered their questions.  Take a look:

http://consciousdiscussions.blogspot.ca/2012/10/world-of-writing-interviews.html

Friday, October 12, 2012

Drop by the Brummet's Conscious Blog on Oct 15

Once there, you can read where the host interviews me from a writer’s point of view concerning
advice /knowledge of self-publishing:


If you've ever thought about getting your story out, this interview is just what the Doctor ordered-- good food for your ears.

http://www.consciousdiscussions.blogspot.com

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Meet Ms. Ery at the Leonia Library Oct 11th


  1. No one knows drama like Miss Ery.  She may be beautiful on the outside, but her name says it all.  

    Two Latinas Writing Books will be at the Leonia Library October 11th at 7p.m.,discussing when misery meets comedy. Meet Miss Ery.  Come on out during Hispanic Heritage Month to hear how these two very different Latinas met. Plus, if you are interested in getting your story out in a book, they can tell you how.


Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Father-in-law kills daughter-in-law


Terrible news-   Deadly in-law drama

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/09/25/new-york-man-73-wanted-in-death-daughter-in-law-as-cops-search-woods/

Do you know someone involved in the in-law blues?

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Is your mother-in-law your mother; or is your mother- your mother?

I remember doing a radio interview and being caught off guard when asked, "Doesn't the Bible say to Honor your Mother and Father?" Basically, the caller was judging me because in my book, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not speaking till this day. First off, she's not my mother, which is what I should have responded, and secondly, I just found the answer to his question. As I read the...
Word this morning I found in Mark 3: 31-35:

"Then Jesus 'mother and brothers arrived. Standing outside, they sent someone in to call him. A crowd was sitting around him, and they told him, "Your mother and brothers are outside looking for you." "Who are my mother and my brothers?" he asked. Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, "Here are my mother and my brothers! Whoever does God's will is my brother and sister and mother." Ha! Ask me that question again, I will have an answer for you.   Who do you say is your mother?

Friday, September 14, 2012

In-law problems still an issue even after one is dead!

In-law drama still a problem even after one is dead! This ex-daughter-in-law is still stirring up problems for her mother-in-law (no pun intended).  See full story below on link.

http://ht.ly/duwFs

Sunday, September 9, 2012

When In-law Violence hits a celebrity's life.

This is such a sad, sad, story.  Jennifer Hudson's family killed by her brother-in-law.  Domestic violence is growing in the in-law arena.  Read below for the full story.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/may/11/jennifer-hudson-william-balfour-murder-guilty?fb=optOut

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

StepMonster- The book have you heard about it?

I belong to several stepfamily groups on facebook and I just happened to come across this article on Psychology today. One of the groups had posted it.  I thought the author of stepmonster did a good job on explaining some of the family dynamics. If you notice, it includes adults hating the stepmom. I'm pretty darn sure it is the mother-in-law, leading that parade folks.  What say you?  See below for the article.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/200910/the-real-reason-kids-and-adults-hate-stepmom-part-2

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Monday, August 13, 2012

Stepfamily or Blended family or Bonus family- who cares? They do!

 Taken from stepbystepmediation.com:

Research has shown that calling a Step Family a “Blended Family” can actually set that family up for failure. During the first 5 years of Stepfamily formation they are trying to figure out the Boundaries/ Rules/ Family position and Roles. They are hardly “Blended”. When they and society put an unrealistic expectation on themselves by using this terminology they are adding stress onto an already stressful situation because they may feel like they are failing at Blending their family.
Society needs to accept and call Stepfamilies for who they are – a gathering of people from two separate families who have come together to create a new and unique family system. Just as Adoptive Families and Foster Families are celebrated for their uniqueness, Stepfamilies should be as well.
Be proud of your Stepfamily and rejoice in your connection and know that in time you will “Blend” but at the beginning it may feel more like you are in a Blender.


What say you?

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Wife looking for advice

I found this article in circle of moms. This wife shared her marital business w/her mother and now her mother and husband hate each other. This is a common dynamic in marriages today.  Read her story below:

http://www.circleofmoms.com/stay-at-home-moms/stuck-between-husband-and-mother-feels-like-a-war-705815#_

The bottom line-  What happens between husband and wife stays between husband and wife.